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I’m making a list of losses and gains.
Losses
husband
artistic partner
trust in people’s vows and promises (at least for now)
weight (120 to 107)
hair (I keep thinking I should ask the super to come up and unclog my drains, but that sounds embarrassingly louche)
sleep
sense of a vision of the future
joie de vivre (temporary)
Gains
closet space
friends (yay! friends!)
material (I’ll have a whole new book when I’m done with this)
independent identity free from infection by his prejudices, biases, paranoias, etc.
prescriptions
debt
freedom (although I’m still too totally bewildered to know what to do with it)
Otohime 
Darling,
I love this list. On my own Gains list from long ago: bagels. yes, for 5 years, I didn't eat one, infected by the dislikes of another. how could i have been so stupid? The Gains list will get longer over time, as things shift over from Losses.
Can't wait to read the book, meanwhile devouring the blog.
XOOX
Ariane